What Kind of Life Do You Want to Lead?
Are there areas in your life that you are nailing? Are you on fire or making it rain? Are there some areas where things aren't going so well, and you'd love to improve?
I believe no matter who you are this will always be the case, so you are not alone. So don’t beat yourself up about it. If you are not growing you are dying; so there always needs to be an area in which you need to invest and nurture.
In my quest to grow into my potential I have contextually framed the life I want to lead. By contextually I mean high level things; being relaxed and calm (most of the time), succeeding first at home, being present in the moment, taking responsibility always, feeling abundant and free of addiction.
I'm heavily invested in moving towards this vision and now see some of the habits I have created as barriers to achieving this. What anchors this for me is the saying, ‘how you do anything is how you do everything’.
So I know if I want to make a choice in one area of life, all my other choices need to be congruent. I'll give you an example: I used to love a punt on the footy to spice up the Friday night game. As harmless as this may sound, I came to realise it was incongruent to me feeling calm and being present with my family. So after a decade of a bet or two each weekend, I gave it up without hesitation. This was once I understood it’s incongruence to my bigger vision.
Establishing this contextual vision has also allowed me to make choices that I otherwise would not have made, from regular random acts of kindness to arriving home by 6pm (making it the rule rather than the exception).
Next on my hit list is breaking my iPhone and coffee addiction!
So, two questions to ask yourself:
- What kind of person do you want to be? Be articulate and visualise this person (what kind of relationships would they have, how would they feel, how would they look)?
- What am I currently doing or not doing that this person would or wouldn’t do?
Once you determine these answers, you might be surprised about how quickly and easily you can make a shift.