Proximity is Power

Proximity is Power

You are the average of the five people you hang around the most. Have you ever heard that before?  I have, and over the years I have come to believe it.

Paul Siderovski gives this example; imagine you are playing Rafael Nadal in a game of tennis. Who do you think is actually improving their game? I'll give you a hint, it's not Rafa!

So if that is true, how do you improve as a parent, investor, communicator, student or business owner? Simple; proximity is power. Identify people who have attributes you admire, and spend time with them.

Don't underestimate the power in asking someone for help. Over the years I've asked a lot of people to spare some time for me so I can learn about them, from them and ask many questions. I am yet to be turned away.

And here is the beautiful part. When you ask these people how they came to be a great parent or an inspiring communicator, I guarantee they won’t say I was just born this way and make you think you lucked out on the genetic lottery. I bet they'll give you some practical advice that you can start working on today. 

You see, every overnight success story when you dig a little deeper is normally preceded by years and years of hard work, anonymity, failures (or as we call them at SiDCOR, ‘gifts’) and trial and error.

One of the biggest mistakes I see people do is not necessarily failing to ask for advice, but rather asking the wrong person. Think about the people in your proximity. I bet it includes family members who may have different philosophies or blue prints to you about how to parent, what it means to be healthy or how to create wealth. So, if you have a question about how to handle a situation, before you pick up the phone to Mum and Dad, or ask your Uncle, ask yourself has this person achieved success in this area? If so, go for it. If not, hang up the phone and get in the proximity of someone who has.

But what if you don't have someone you know who inspires you? Pick up a book! What more powerful a way to be in someone's proximity than to pick up their book and have them talk directly to you.

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